Friday, October 20, 2006

How many ways to show I am married?

So, turns out, if a woman in India gets married, she needs about half-a-dozen things on her body like glaring Las Vegas billboards announcing to the world that she is "taken" and someone else's property. There is the mangal sutra, the bangles, the bindi, the nosering, the toe ring and the sidhoor.

I actually saw something totally interesting about the origins of these "signs" of matrimony --

“Even to this day, there is a custom whereby the mother asks her son on the eve of his marriage, ‘Where are you going?’. He replies, ‘I’m going to bring you a maid-servant.’ It comes from those days when the victorious clan would drag the defeated women back to its own hill. Not only that – to bind someone you need a rope or a chain … The women would be brought back in those days with chains on their wrists, otherwise they might run away. The iron bangle that a married (Hindu) woman wears today is a symbol of that early servitude. In those days women also fought in battle, and were often hit on the head and severely injured. A small vermilion mark then came to represent the blood streaming from their cracked heads. But today a woman must wear that vermilion mark if she is to be recognized as married.”

So, in my estimation, ages ago, women must have been chained to posts when unattended, or maybe tethered like cows, and hence the dog collar (or mangalsutra) and the nose ring.

And, just out of curiosity, how many signs does a man have to wear? Like.. none... "Sir, you are free to roam about the country")

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